People will be miserable, they will be selfish, and they will be arrogant. Yet, if we look closely, we will see that they are telling us who we are.
This morning I went with my mother to the Lab to get my regular blood work done. We met a friendly Guyanese lady who talked incessantly about her dislike for Sri Lankans. She jokingly gave examples of those she experienced, who she described as miserable and always fighting among each other. My mother and I noticed her prejudice. Yet, immediately afterwards my mother went to the super market and came back complaining about the selfishness of Chinese shoppers. A Chinese lady, she said, was grabbing up all the discounted Papayas. I am no different, for I have had to battle my own negative stereotypes against what I called ‘arrogant’ African-Americans.
Each time we discriminate against others, we are saying a lot about who we are, and our perceived need to lift ourselves up from beneath others. However, by loving and forgiving others, we can more easily love and forgive ourselves. By seeing their beauty, we can see our own beauty.
The whole world changes when we can see ourselves as more than or above no one, as less than or beneath no one. The whole world changes when we can see ourselves as perfectly imperfect, like everyone.