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How feeling abandoned can actually be a good thing?

Last night I had a recurring dream. I was left alone with no ride and no way to get home. I was so fuming mad that I still felt the anger when I woke up. I have dreamt of being deserted several times; this even included my mother as one of those mean souls who abandoned me.

This fear is quite a common one. Some say it’s a reflection of our powerlessness due to health issues or a traumatic experience as a child. Others say it is a fear we are born with, as can be seen when we separate a baby from its parents. I believe it’s also our resistance to life preparing us for the way forward?

There are times when life forces our family and friends to abandon us, in order to grow us. This is because we are most comfortable when we have or do things the same way, or when the same people we are used to are there for us. Change this and we get upset. Reflecting on my dream I can now say to myself: O.k you’re forgotten, left alone, or abandoned. Do you waste your time steaming with anger or do you open your eyes to see the opportunity that life is offering you?

Here is the amazing part. I look now and I see many parts of my life where I feel I am being abandoned, and I get it. It’s just life shifting me, to focus on the people and path that will grow me. To remind me of this and perhaps keep those fearful abandonment dreams at bay, I wrote the following poem. I will paste it so I can see it daily. Perhaps it will also be useful to you or another you know.