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Succeeding Doing What We Love

If we have access to a truckload of information on how to be successful, why is it that most of us can’t find success doing what we love in life? Thus we spend our life working to create gigantic success for other people. I did it because I found security in the dreams and businesses of others more than I did in myself.

A Way to Shift Focus to Doing What We Love

Fortunately, as a result of my stroke, I gained access to some divine power inside me and I suddenly found the drive to go after and achieve what I really wanted. If that wasn’t enough, I discovered that my new found thoughts and actions for achieving what I wanted most in life was outlined in Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success! I simplified the process (as shown below), and created a formulae, which is the subject of my upcoming book and a course, both of which will be available early in 2014.


A Process for Success in 16 weeks

The course, which I have designed, based on my 20 years of experience as a corporate trainer, will be available as a promotion in January. It will be a live virtual course, lasting 16-weeks, for 2 hours each week. To participate, an individual must have some great success that he or she wants to achieve, such as making money doing what he or she loves. If one is accepted as the right fit for the program, he or she will be instructed on each law of success, and held accountable for following through on various related exercises. He/she will also have access to the contributions of the 9 other participants, and will be teamed with one other person for added motivation. As this is a promotion, the cost of the course is only $100 for the 16 weeks. All participants who do what is required are guaranteed to reach their goal or make dramatic progress towards it.

This is a rather unique course. I would love to hear your thoughts and respond to any questions.

When Life Wants to Open You

For the last few years, I have been working on completing a book. I have written some 300 pages! Yet, it has never been good enough. I was never good enough. It took a good friend and very successful colleague of mine to straighten me out. He told me, it took him 10 years to complete his last book, because he too was paralysed by his own undermining perfectionist voice! To challenge me, he told me that in 2 weeks, he wants my book presented to him!  Ahhhhhhhh!

Please pray that God gives me the wisdom, energy and courage to take the final step, and release what is being spoken through me. For now, while I am focused on finishing up the book, I thought I would share this short piece I wrote.

when life wants to open you

Congratulations Gabby

grad2Earlier today, I attended the graduation for my niece Gabby. When we came back home, she jumped for joy, totally feeling ecstatic that all her hard work lead to graduating with honours in the Broadcast Television and Media Program at Humber College.  Though I couldn’t jump with her, I matched her outstretched arms and her brilliant smile that seemed to bring ever more light to the world around us.grad1

To Gabby and all the 2013 graduates I say, it’s your time to soar! Continue moving forward. Work relentlessly to realize your vision for the world. I’ll work with you, help pick you up if you fall, and give you a helping hand, when you need it. Never give up; and when you achieve your next great accomplishment, I’ll be there to celebrate again, joyfully squeezing you with all the pride and love I can find.

Finding Our Way

I felt like I  had been run over by a bulldozer, when my doctor wrote that I was permanently disabled and unable to work. I could not accept that I may never again be a corporate trainer, never again able to help people.

It took some time for me to see that if we look at things as they truly are, not as they used to be or as we would like them to be, we can see the gift that is being given to us.

Once I opened my eyes to see what surrounded me, I saw the computers. I looked closer and saw that the Internet was growing with applications that would enable me to contribute to any person and any organization, from anywhere. I had found my way.

In a couple of months, I will be travelling to Ottawa to be a part of a virtual facilitation team for the 23rd Annual International Black Summit. I will be helping off-site people who cannot get to Ottawa, both able-bodied and physically challenged, participate in this weekend event. Together, we will be focusing on bringing into being our visions for black communities and the world.

To find the way to help people be the best of themselves, I had to be in the present and find my way to myself.

Hearing the Path to the Experiences We Desire

In mystical traditions, it is one’s own readiness that makes experiences exoteric or esoteric. The secret isn’t that you’re not being told. The secret is that you’re not able to hear.

These are the words of Ram Dass. My translation:

When it seems impossible to get what you want, it is not because you are not ready, nor is it because you are not given the information you need. It’s because you are not able to hear the thoughts that tells the path to all that you desire.

I used to think ‘I cannot write as good as the many good writers out there.’ I thought this over and over again, to the extent that I could not hear the buried voice of truth inside me.

“Write,” it said! “Your words convey emotion and touch people’s hearts.”

These thoughts penetrated my ear drums. But would soon be killed by a bombardment of worrisome, insecure thinking.

Today, I spend much time alone and in silence. As a result, I can often hear the gentle whispers of encouragement, pushing me towards writing and other success tools, things which ignite excitement in my gut.

I can finally hear the words “you are love. The pen belongs in your hand.” These words have long been pounding on my deafened ears. I am finally hearing and listening.

Are you hearing and listening to the way to the experiences you desire?

Are you living your life your way?

It was not until my brain attach that I understood the meaning of Frank Sinatra song, “My Way.”  The first stanza of the song follows.

And now, the end is here
And so I face the final curtain
My friend, I’ll say it clear
I’ll state my case, of which I’m certain
I’ve lived a life that’s full
I traveled each and ev’ry highway
And more, much more than this, I did it my way

This a song not for when we are old or dying, but for that point of our life when we begin to lose ourselves to people, things or the status-quo. No one wants to find out when it is too late, the importance of living life “their way.”

Thank God for my stroke, for without it I would not have realized that I was not living life my way. For example, I need to dress colorfully, find “out of the box” ways of doing things, and relate to people in an honest way. I need these things to bring out the fire in me. Sometimes I feel I need them, just to breathe.

When I wear funky red clothes, I feel filled with as much light as the very material I am wearing. My attire does not always fit with the unspoken dress code of most workplaces or churches, but it sure fits with me. When I develop a virtual training session for soft skills development, this may be out of the box for many people, yet it bountifully boosts my ability to break down barrier to learning and sharing. When I share my honest thoughts, this may be uplifting or terribly disappointing to someone, yet it is my commitment to inserting true love that will heal us all, certainly me.

Up until my 20’s and early 30’s, my way of being seemed to push me to full expression of self, like the vibrancy of youth. At that time, my appearance and my spirit was colourful, out of the box and honest in my life and work. One example of this was when I worked for the Canadian International Development Agency. I came up with and created the Agency’s Self-Directed Learning Centre, which was one of the first such centre’s created in the Canadian Government. It became a model for other departments, and was hailed as one of the best accomplishments that came out of CIDA’s Human Resources Department.

As the years went on, my way of doing things became lost in my inner-fight to fit in, to be like others, to have what others had. I wore darker clothes, conformed to the status quo, and kept my mouth shut, leaving people to believe whatever they wanted.

With my stroke began the re-emergence of my individual and colourful being, my out-of-the-box thinking, and my desire to courageously share the truth instead of hiding under the falseness of saying nothing. As a result, though I am getting older, the youth in me is re-emerging.

I just bought pairs of red, orange and yellow pants – and if I may so myself, they are rocking! I am loving introducing more and more previously intimated people to doing meetings and training via Webex. Finally, I now have the voice to share my faith and tell people if I believe what they are doing or saying is hurtful to themselves or others.

So what do you think? Are you able to do things your way in all aspect of your life? What is the impact?

Here is Sinatra singing “My Way.” Reflect on the words, again or for the first time.

Turning My Darkness Into Light

As the rain fell heavily on the pavement, my daughter and I emerged from the dry doorway of a high-rise apartment building, into the drenching night-pour. We were too anxious to get home to wait for the rain to stop; so we ran across the street and just kept on running towards our home.

It was a dark night, yet there was just enough light from the sky to help us see the road on which we were travelling. The rain soon disappeared; however, we had another worry. To go on, we had to choose between two routes. To the left was a route to a small hill, leading into a forested area. It was the shortest way; however, there was no outlined path. To the right was a narrow and winding road, carved out of the hill. The road was clearly defined, but there was no side-walk; therefore, we would have to make sure to let our feet stay close to the corners of the road.

Which path should we take? The decision was hindered by one not so small problem. Both routes were pitch-black, and we couldn’t see a thing. Also, I realized I had forgotten my flashlight, and it seemed too far to go back where we came from, to get it. To make matters worse, I was frozen still by my fear of being lost in the darkness ahead, no matter which way we took.

I woke up frozen still, with my indecision and my fear. ‘This is about my life’, I thought. I will not go back to my past, nor will I get swallowed by the inevitable looming darkness. There is, however, a third option.  It’s time to turn my darkness into light!

When I was younger, I travelled through many great moments and painful downpours in my life. The light carried me on its back, like a child, through my many darknesses.  Now that I am older, I must choose to become one conscious partner with the light, and turn the darkness into light.

I must trust and believe in the over-powering light that lives within me, the transforming power of the light that my human eyes cannot see.  All I have to do is ask God for the path which I must travel, silence myself, listen, and wait for the answer. If I hear step left, I must step left. If I hear step right, I must step right. If I am told to choose the path of my greatest human fear and pain, I must take that path. I must choose to become one with my divine light, and follow the way home to the many great things for which I came to this place.

Getting Buy-In for your Passion

I am as passionate about people using technology to serve others and access services remotely, as I am about the beauty and healing of yellow roses. I can get people to buy into the awesomeness of yellow roses, but getting people excited about my other passions is another story.

I was at a leadership meeting for an organization recently, and was all prepared to demonstrate and show the awesome value of remote participation. I mentioned my passion to three colleagues sitting near me, with emphasis on how this would benefit the organization’s need for volunteers.

One lady responded in a seemingly assertive voice and negative manner, saying that a lot of individuals do not have computers, and would not value remote participation. Those few words squashed any further desire for me to share my passion.

Was this woman the ‘awful passion buster’ I described or was the problem me? It was me. My insecurities were triggered, and I could not seize the opportunity to truly get buy-in for my passion.

I saw opposition because deep down, that is what I expected. Once my trigger shows up (in this case loud, aggressive speaking that does not support my idea), I think people are going to oppose me, so no matter what happens, I see opposition.

Consider that all I heard was a perspective, with no definitively declared opposition! What if I had just listened without judgement, acknowledge the truth in what was spoken, then offer some other truth in a complementary way? For example, what if I had said:  ‘good point – do you think it would be better if emphasis is placed on those who have the technology to volunteer remotely?’ If I asked such a question, would the discussion have turned out differently? I think so. Especially because I would be expecting a positive response, and that is what I would work to get.

The point is, people need to tell us how they see the value of our passion; it’s a more difficult road when we try to tell them. To get them to tell us, we must arm ourselves with questions that others are likely to respond to in a positive way. This, of course, does not include situations in which there is complete opposition, i.e. someone who absolutely hates roses. In that case, it’s a good idea to just keep our mouth shut.

Luckily, there are many other chances to get buy-in for our passion. At least this time, I was reminded to watch out for my triggers, oppose no one, and let them tell me the value of what I have to offer.

Now, will you help me learn further about my passion? If you work remotely (i.e. from home) what is the value? If you do not and would like to, why? If you do not and are not interested, why not?

Virtual Technology: Building A Dream Team for the Accomplishment of Our Vision

Basketball is a beautiful game, when the five players on the court play with one heartbeat.

The above are the words of Dean Smith (shown on the right with Michael Jordan), celebrated retired coach of men’s college basketball. He knew how to build championship players. Many of whom went on to play on the celebrated US Olympic dream teams (2012 team shown below), and are great examples for the world-class accomplishments we all seek in our lives.

One of my greatest desires in life, is to be a part of an unbeatable dream team, where each member functions as one heartbeat. I tasted that dream team yesterday evening, as I was sitting in my Markham  living room, strategizing and building a  team with two guys from New Jersey. We were touching each other, feeling each other, inspiring each other, as though we were right next to each other. We were using our individual talents to build the dream team that would create the future we dreamed of. That future involves bringing to the world, the exhilaration that we were experiencing in that very moment; that is, bringing virtual technology to the realization of all our visions, placing the global market place and talent pool at the finger tips of those who are seeking them.

After three exhilarating hours with my Jersey colleagues, I can say with little doubt what much of the world is aware of, but too fearful to act upon. That is, virtual technology is expanding our possibilities, beyond many of our wildest imaginations. We are no longer limited by geographic boundaries; in fact, our playground for growing ourselves, building dream teams, growing audiences, and reinventing ourselves, have vastly expanded.

Going Virtual: Developing People Over There from Right Here

Type of screen on which virtual participants were projected.

Two Weeks ago, I attended the 2012 International Black Summit (IBS) in Birmingham, Alabama. I watched my fellow  facilitators masterfully help a young lady, who was sitting in her Toronto living room, deal with the realities of herself and the job to which she was so devoted.  Projected on a screen, in front of the room, the young lady poured out her dilemma to a room full of participants in Birmingham. Her tear-filled words seemed to touch every heart in the room and kept my own eyes and ears transfixed by what was happening. With a microphone in hand, each facilitator, with their eyes glued to the young lady, took turn guiding her to the answers that would transform her.

It did not take long for me to realize that I was witnessing the realization of a vision I have held for the last few years: small businesses and non-profit organizations reaching remote participants around the world, and interacting with them, as though they are right in front of them. Now I can more forcefully say, no matter where they are, if individuals can’t physically attend an event because of ability, distance, cost, responsibilities, etc., they can take advantage of the increasingly powerful, virtual participation.

I heard and saw the virtual IBS participants from Canada and others parts of the U.S., as they were projected into the room. I was present to God and the opportunities to realize whatever vision we set our hearts to. Just put it out there, do the work and stand, and keep doing the work and keep standing, until the vision manifests.

As I sit here now, I see a vision of thousands of organizations making their professional development events virtually accessible around the globe (including best in-class live virtual interaction), as the IBS achieved two weeks ago. I also see myself sitting here in front of my computer in Markham, Ontario, enabling others (people down the road, elsewhere in Toronto, from another place in Canada, or from another country) to deliver virtually accessible events  from right where they are.

What about you? What do you have to offer the world? What can you do to develop people around the world, from right where you are?