Thought I would share the Heart&Stroke Lottery piece to which I contributed. Click here to see. I am the fifth panel. I share this and the piece I recently wrote Good News | Our everyday heroes…(Living Life in The Silent World of the Deaf), to support these organization. I do not make money from doing work for these and other charities; I contribute primarily because of the blessing they can provide to others. I also do it because I must give, and I find it difficult overcoming barriers to paid employment as a middle-aged stroke survivor. I ask for your prayers that this work will also be a blessings to me, as I continue to find my purpose and my place after my stroke blessing.
Have you ever had something go terribly wrong in your life? You find yourself in a senseless argument. You feel shattered from the loss of someone close to you. Or you lose a job you desperately wanted. Did you know that such bad situations are also how life speaks to us, blesses us, and pushes us towards our life purpose? Let me give you an example.
I’ve been working on what should have been a simple article for Good News Toronto. The article features Alicia Vianga, the founder of the After Breast Cancer charity and the Premier Jour Fine Lingerie and Swimwear boutique.
The interview opened up my life, in a way I could never have predicted. Due to the stroke and my subsequent disability, I am unable to drive. As a result, I felt I had to do the interview from home, using Skype. Perhaps more importantly, the thought of travelling alone for 2 ½ hours by public transportation to do a face-to-face interview, paralysed me with unconscionable fear.
Shockingly, the Skype interview also seemed paralysing; though it began well. Alicia said that when she initially came to Canada, she was a live-in nanny. I asked her, “What were the obstacles that stood in your way of getting where you are today?”
She responded, “me;” that is, she thought that no one would hire her to do anything more than clean houses.
I questionably responded. “That’s not it. That’s not what I am looking for.” I was thinking that the obstacle had to be something like breast cancer. However, she had no such painful health challenge.
Not yet aware of what was going on, I asked the same question several times. With increasing frustration, Alicia gave me the same answer, while trying to be as tolerable as possible.
The problem was that even though I was listening to her; I couldn’t hear her. I was hearing the thoughts in my head that said I needed to go and see her.
We tried the interview by Skype again, but I still couldn’t get what I thought I needed; and the frustration continued. Interestingly enough, both Alicia and I knew that this was not about writing an article.
It was not long before I just stopped. I then could see that my irrational fear of taking public transportation by myself was getting in my way. I knew that a breakthrough was being called for. So I reluctantly planned the trip to Alicia’s boutique, which required travel by bus, subway, and street car. I got myself ready to take the long trip by myself for the first time, since the stroke 7 years ago.
I boarded the bus, the train and the street car for what turned out to be a peaceful, sometimes eye-opening trip, to Alicia’s boutique. She was a beautiful and insightful person, who I was blessed to meet. As a result of that trip, my limiting world of stroke, anxiety and disability subsided, and invited greater freedom into my future.
I was reminded that we sometimes have to stop and listen before we can hear that our problems may also be our blessings. Do you have a problem in your life that may just be your blessing? Stop! Listen and hear. What good is your life offering you?
When she first came on the show, she showed off a quiet and angelic voice. Her sweet tone, which was like no other, was memorizing. As a result, she was listed among the favourites.
Three weeks ago, she must have decided that to win, she had to compete with the big voices of the other contestants. Each week I would go back, hoping to hear her angelic gift, once again. She would show it for a little; but never stopped trying to match everyone else. While everyone else got better at being who they were, she got worst at being who she was. She didn’t know the value of her special gift. As a result, her journey on the show ended.
I too forgot my specialness, and tried to be like everyone else. As a result, I nearly lost my life. Now I focus on doing what I love, and with love. I write, speak and lead from my heart, regardless of what others may think. It was knowing what made me special, that enabled me to write my book. Check out these comments from my editor.
What about you, do you know what makes you special? Are you sharing your specialness with the world?
What is the purpose for which God made you?
I was made to write, speak, and do things that inspire people to be the best of themselves. You could see it in my DNA as a little child and in my performance at school. Yet for a long time, I felt forced to work for organizations, not directly for people. Today that’s all changing. My book (which I have had to postpone sharing until next week) shares the “A Path to Success” system, which I use to guide me on a journey to fulfilling my purpose in a big way!My aim is to inspire you to do what you are made for, and achieve great success doing it.
What about you? Tell me and other readers what you love to do, what you were you made for.
Before my stroke, I would have said I was aiming to retain the comfort and ease of my well-paying job as a training consultant. Yet it didn’t take a fool to see that my intense dislike and sometimes defiance of my boss, were revealing my true aim, which was trouble!!
Becoming a People Builder
Today, my chief aim is to be a true people builder. Thus every day, I do something towards my book/course, Me and Napoleon Hill, which reveals various laws, practices and processes for succeeding by truly aiming at creating a life doing what we love. This is my gift back to the world, for I have experienced it all, through my miraculous healing and intellectual achievements over the last 6 years, as I rose from a near lethal stroke.
With gratitude, I can say that a few results affirm that my words and actions are lining up to manifest my true aim. First, I received authorization from the Napoleon Foundation to share significant excerpts from “The Law of Success in Sixteen Lessons,” which was a resource for Hill’s timeless classic “Think and Grow Rich.”
Second, and the most exiting reason for me, is that the success laws and practices I share, align with the biblical fruit of the spirit, which states:
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. (Galatians 5: 22-23).
Third, as of next week, I will begin to share some easy to apply processes from Me and Napoleon Hill, with the intention of building people up as high as they want to go.
For now, I repeat this truth.
Success requires focusing your actions on aiming to go somewhere, to do something.
What do you say you are aiming for? How do your committed and consistent actions confirm this?
If we have access to a truckload of information on how to be successful, why is it that most of us can’t find success doing what we love in life? Thus we spend our life working to create gigantic success for other people. I did it because I found security in the dreams and businesses of others more than I did in myself.
A Way to Shift Focus to Doing What We Love
Fortunately, as a result of my stroke, I gained access to some divine power inside me and I suddenly found the drive to go after and achieve what I really wanted. If that wasn’t enough, I discovered that my new found thoughts and actions for achieving what I wanted most in life was outlined in Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success! I simplified the process (as shown below), and created a formulae, which is the subject of my upcoming book and a course, both of which will be available early in 2014.
A Process for Success in 16 weeks
The course, which I have designed, based on my 20 years of experience as a corporate trainer, will be available as a promotion in January. It will be a live virtual course, lasting 16-weeks, for 2 hours each week. To participate, an individual must have some great success that he or she wants to achieve, such as making money doing what he or she loves. If one is accepted as the right fit for the program, he or she will be instructed on each law of success, and held accountable for following through on various related exercises. He/she will also have access to the contributions of the 9 other participants, and will be teamed with one other person for added motivation. As this is a promotion, the cost of the course is only $100 for the 16 weeks. All participants who do what is required are guaranteed to reach their goal or make dramatic progress towards it.
This is a rather unique course. I would love to hear your thoughts and respond to any questions.
I can now say without a doubt that the greatest prejudice against me comes from me! I had it in my head that organizations would not hire me and men would not want to go out with me, once they know about my stroke!
There are two main problems with this. First, these thoughts are coming from within me! If I think that way, there is little doubt that my experiences will support my thinking. Second, because of my own prejudice against my stroke, I spent a lot of time trying to prove I have not lost some level of my former abilities. That is a lie! Enough with defending what I was, what I am no more!!!
I say without pain, that I cannot do certain things as well as I used to, such as public speaking without adequate notes. Instead, I have been forever transformed into the stoke-blessed-me, the authentic me! Here I find, a new found specialness. I can speak more powerfully than ever before, on the right topic and with sufficient preparation. Moreover, I passionately write, I innovate, I find creative solutions, and I am more committed to whatever I take on!
This is the authentic me, the stroke survivor. I am ready to expose her to, to share her with, the world. Here is a piece I was moved to write in celebration of our authentic selves.