I told one of my best friends that I had signed up on a dating website. She too is divorced and would love a second chance at a relationship. However, as a professional, she found it embarrassing, and was afraid that people she knew might see her. I understood what she was saying for I felt that way, until I decided to live in the 21st century.
In my single yesterday world, years have gone by and I have not meeting any potential partners. I therefore chose to add to my comfortable normal hang-outs (church, the gym, and various professional places), and go where there are many potential partners waiting to meet me.
I had to go on-line, where I personally know of four professional women who met their partners.
It’s been a few days since I reluctantly signed up, and I am learning how to be real. This is not an easy thing, for I have a limp and limited income. Nonetheless, my supposed weaknesses have turned out to be my greatest blessings, for they are guiding me to myself and to my ideal partner.
Will I succeed in finding what I want? I have faith that I will, on the web or off. Either way, just looking and talking awaken something in me that has been sleeping for far too long.
I truly believe, if we go for what you want, we almost always find some great blessing.
This past Sunday my pastor announced the name of a lady who was about to address the church. I looked around for this stranger to emerge.
The lady in front of me got up. “Me backside,” as my Jamaican grandmother would say when she was shocked. I had been sitting behind and speaking to this lady for 2 years and didn’t know her name.
She thanked the pastor and others for their support related to the recent death of her daughter! I was shocked again. I had not even expressed my condolences, all because I didn’t know her name.
I decided that would never happen to me again. So I did some research. Here is one video that will help many of us who have gotten in that awkward place of forgetting names.
I will practice, practice, practice. The main strategies I will use are to tell myself several times I am going to remember the name, find opportunities to repeat it several times once I hear it, and associate the name with some picture. Do you have others you would like to share?
In work and life, how do you deal with the people and situations who just rub you the wrong way? Being silent, grinning and bearing aren’t going to cut it; because whether we realize it or not, people can tell when we are being like hypocritical politicians.
The other day I was on a leadership call for the planning of an annual event for this summer. About 14 people were on the call; and I must admit, it was somewhat of an irritating experience. As usual, the ones with biggest mouths took control and spoke way too long. In addition, the way the call was facilitated, I felt I could not share what I wanted. So I became lost in the noise of my silent complaints.
After the call, I asked myself how do people share what they need to share, when they feel like silent puppies among others who are constantly barking? My answer – I go inside myself and I find a way to deliver my message so that others can hear it. In this case, I would write it down in the most graphic and compelling way I know. I have done so in the past and generally get the attention and feedback I needed.
The next time you encounter people and situations that rub you the wrong way, remember there is no right way for everyone be – just your way, my way and everyone’s way. Don’t judge my way, or I might just cut off your head (not literally), and will be less inclined to see your talents and support you.
Just find a way to show your genuine and most powerful way of getting your point across, given the situation. You can talk, write, draw, or whatever speaks you. Just be and let others be!