I am as passionate about people using technology to serve others and access services remotely, as I am about the beauty and healing of yellow roses. I can get people to buy into the awesomeness of yellow roses, but getting people excited about my other passions is another story.
I was at a leadership meeting for an organization recently, and was all prepared to demonstrate and show the awesome value of remote participation. I mentioned my passion to three colleagues sitting near me, with emphasis on how this would benefit the organization’s need for volunteers.
One lady responded in a seemingly assertive voice and negative manner, saying that a lot of individuals do not have computers, and would not value remote participation. Those few words squashed any further desire for me to share my passion.
Was this woman the ‘awful passion buster’ I described or was the problem me? It was me. My insecurities were triggered, and I could not seize the opportunity to truly get buy-in for my passion.
I saw opposition because deep down, that is what I expected. Once my trigger shows up (in this case loud, aggressive speaking that does not support my idea), I think people are going to oppose me, so no matter what happens, I see opposition.
Consider that all I heard was a perspective, with no definitively declared opposition! What if I had just listened without judgement, acknowledge the truth in what was spoken, then offer some other truth in a complementary way? For example, what if I had said: ‘good point – do you think it would be better if emphasis is placed on those who have the technology to volunteer remotely?’ If I asked such a question, would the discussion have turned out differently? I think so. Especially because I would be expecting a positive response, and that is what I would work to get.
The point is, people need to tell us how they see the value of our passion; it’s a more difficult road when we try to tell them. To get them to tell us, we must arm ourselves with questions that others are likely to respond to in a positive way. This, of course, does not include situations in which there is complete opposition, i.e. someone who absolutely hates roses. In that case, it’s a good idea to just keep our mouth shut.
Luckily, there are many other chances to get buy-in for our passion. At least this time, I was reminded to watch out for my triggers, oppose no one, and let them tell me the value of what I have to offer.
Now, will you help me learn further about my passion? If you work remotely (i.e. from home) what is the value? If you do not and would like to, why? If you do not and are not interested, why not?